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Monday, July 30, 2007

SPACE...TRUE OR VIRTUAL

SPACE...TRUE OR VIRTUAL



The much talked about Gen-ex when exposed to a discussion on 'personal relationships management' become a bit uncomfortable and loose their much maintained equilibrium.The 'space ' which is expected out of every relationship does its vaccum creation and leaves these 'people of the future with nothing more than abscense of gravity and blackholes in their relationships.

Since when did this space become so important in our Indian ethos...does westernisation and globalisation mean diminishing of our deep rooted ideas of belonging?

why compromise? this question is asked time and again as regards everything and anything...

compromise because you love the person you are compromising for,
compromise because the relation means more than the self,
compromise because it will eventually bring you happiness for the deed you have done...
compromise because it means you have put someone's needs before your's...
compromise because you have chosen to rise above the self...

IS it not wonderful to have your mother wait for you to have dinner with...
is it not satisfying to have someone to hold your hand in times of trauma,
is it not bliss to see the first performance of your child on the stage and then shed a tear of happiness with your spouse..
what space are we talking about when a father worries about his 'about to deliver a child'daughter?

space can only leave a space which is 'empty' between people...
there is nothing wrong to expect good behaviour form your offspring
nothing wrong to expect loyalty from your partner
nothing wrong to expect care from parents
nothing wrong to care without the expectation and reward
nothing wrong to love and expect love in return too...

the 'space' required is mostly for 'private' activities which we are ashamed of sharing with the world...

some years ago we shared space of the soul with real people around us...
where are these people now...I see only astronauts around!!

3 comments:

Ajit said...

Dear Radhika,
Nice and appropriate words in today's world of diminishing values and relations. Nothing wrong in feeling for or shedding a tear or two for your dear ones. Nothing sissy or childish as some think. Let's be together and bring our next generations inside the clan too. Good one.-- Ajit

Vibha said...

FANTASTIC!! I TOTALLY agree with u,,,believe it or not, these are the things I have been asking myself and Hrishi these days..what individuality are we talking about?? we can very well maintain it while retaining every constraint, restrain and perform thousands of roles every minute we live,,being answerable, being responsible, I feel, gives u a better space and strength to find out what YOU are all about....very nice article..I would say,extremely 'contemparary' in the true sense...happy writing...:-)

thefloweringcactus said...

Totally agree with you Radhika! Sometimes,the so-called pseudo westernization appears to be a curse to the very traditional,unapathic indians.Americans pine for someone to share.Unfortunatley,"je aste tyachi kimmat naste".